Growing Up Little

A woman exploring the world of BDSM and sharing what she discovers…

Other People’s Expectations

on October 21, 2012

I am sitting here feeling annoyed.  Why?  Other people’s expectations and my “failure” to meet them.  Instead of accepting that their dissatisfaction with me is their problem, not mine, I sit here annoyed and writing about it in a blog.

Other people’s expectations of me…  is in a sense a form of control that I allow others to have over me.  It is part of the reason why I denied the type of sexual desires I had for so long.  The attempt to make others happy, to please them, to fit in, to be considered “normal”, to avoid conflict or confrontation… all of those are reasons why I try to meet other people’s expectations.  What I am starting to recognize is – if the end result is unhappiness within myself – why have I have attempted to people please for so bloody long?  And the answer is simple:  FEAR.  Fear of rejection, fear of judgement, fear of criticism…  Lack of self acceptance, self-awareness and self-esteem feeds that people pleasing motive.  Around and around it goes…

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