Growing Up Little

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Daddy Doms – Little Girls

on February 7, 2013

Daddy Doms – Little Girls

The writing below is part of a post from Not so growed up…  I am including it here because I believe it is an excellent description of what being a Daddy Dom and being a Little is truly all about.  It explains the dynamic of the relationship between DD/lg’s.  I want to share this here because there is so much misinformation and misunderstanding out there.

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The first point i’d like to make is: Daddy Doms and their little girls are NOT sick and twisted perverts driven by deep seated incestuous or paedophilic desires.

Littles are simply adult women with a childlike personality and who appreciate an emotionally mature partner to protect, comfort and love them. Littles in a DD/lg relationship are not interested in incest!

Daddy Doms are Dominants who simply assume a much more nurturing and caring role than Dominants in other types of D/s relationships. Little girls are submissive women who have a naturally childlike personality that is especially dominant in them when they are around a Daddy Dom who makes them feel safe and cherished.

Daddy Doms vs. Masters:

Daddy Doms are just like other Dominants and Masters but with 1 or 2 key differences. They still take charge and enjoy being in control but they often enforce different kinds of rules. Daddy Doms will more likely focus on their sibmissive’s personal growth, goals and needs than on things like protocol and how certain actions are carried out. Another difference is that Daddy Doms not only accept but actually value and treasure their submissive’s inner little, encouraging their sub to enter and even live in ‘little space’, to play and to explore and enjoy their little side. Other Masters may rather prefer a submissive with an adult attitude towards life and may actually find littles annoying. Another big difference between other Dominants and Daddy Doms is that being playful, having fun and being able to laugh, A LOT, is a necessity and it is also essential to have a nurturing and affectionate relationship with your little. Not to say that other types of Masters cannot show affection but for the most part they seem to me more stoic, more rigid and far less full of warm fuzzies.

Daddy Doms and Sadism:

Just because a Daddy Dom is nurturing and affectionate does not mean that he cannot be sadistic as well. They can enjoy and embrace their inner sadist while catering to and fulfilling their submissive’s masochistic side.

What is a Daddy-Dom’s job?

First and foremost, Daddy Doms are Dominants and as such it is his job to take charge of his little, to guide her and help her achieve her goals, to protect her and to love and nurture her. Other types of Dominants may be free to flippantly order their submissive around purely for their own pleasure but Daddy Doms dominate and enforce rules according to goals set in place in order to nurture and guide their little and based on what is in their submissive’s best interest.

That being said, Daddy Doms do get a great deal of pleasure from their littles both sexually and otherwise.

Being a Daddy Dom is simply a part of someone’s personality, he likes being a dominant but he likes doing to in a more affectionate and nurturing capacity than is the accepted norm for D/s lifestyle relationships. Daddy Doms often enjoy and find both the little and adult sides of their submissives attractive and can appreciate them both. littles appeal to them because they cater to their desires to nurture, protect and love as well as him enjoying and being amused by the natural, child-like little girl personality in a beautiful adult woman’s body.

Why are littles the way they are and why do they need a Daddy Dom?

Littles are unique women who retain a childlike aspect of their personality. This isn’t to say that there is something wrong with them, on the contrary, although the majority of society doesn’t understand their inner little and so sees it as something undesirable. These women need Daddy Doms to make them feel safe, to embrace their inner littles and accept them for who they are in their entirety, the grown up woman and the inner little girl.

What is a Daddy Dom Like?

Daddy Doms love their littles unconditionally. They cherish the woman as well as her inner little and revel in her childlike personality, her innocence and her appreciation of the simple things like cuddles and cartoons on a weekend morning, milkshakes instead of coffee and the way she turns to him for reassurance. He protects her, guides her when she is unsure of loses her way, he helps her reach her goals and is proud of her when she does. Daddy Doms with a sadistic streak may love to cause her physical pain, the type she likes and craves, but he hates and does everything he can not to hurt her emotionally. He will punish her for transgression, whether he enjoys it or not, and will praise her for a job well done. It takes a great deal of discipline and strength from a Daddy Dom to do what he needs to do: dominate, care for, guide, punish, praise, comfort, understand and love his little. He draws on his own life experiences to guide her and keep her safe all the while accepting her as his, all parts of her – grown up and little.

What is a little like?

Littles are very complex women as they are both sexy, adult women and cute inner littles. They can very well run a company but also may sleep with a teddy bear at night for comfort. She enjoys ‘little’ behaviour which may include games, puzzles, colouring in, arts and crafts, watching cartoons and going out for ice-cream. However, she also enjoys adult interests such as sexy lingerie, girls night out with friends, shopping and much more. She feels safest in her Daddy Dom’s arms and around him she is free to be herself, a quickly mix of adult and little girl and she is free to pursue her ‘little’ interests. She may be needy and whiny at times, she may have irrational fears. She will most likely pout and sulk sometimes but she will also light up with an innocent child-like enthusiasm for things she enjoys and, of course, for her Daddy Dom. She is submissive by nature, seeing the guidance, domination and nurturing love of a Daddy Dom who will guide, protect and comfort her when the world becomes too much to handle. She respects him, submits to his will and trusts him completely to keep her safe and love her.

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Read the entire post by visiting:  Not so growed up…

 

 


43 responses to “Daddy Doms – Little Girls

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    • peterscarlet says:

      Thank you so much for this, I never knew about this in the lifestyle but also I think this is what I was looking for Reading the DD was kind of like reading about my own personality thank you.

  2. aneela71 says:

    Reblogged this on aneela71 and commented:
    So awesome…kudos to the writer

  3. […] Daddy Doms – Little Girls. […]

  4. Milly says:

    This is a great post, I know a good website if anyone wants to know a little more

  5. Thank you for this article … for so long I thought there was something wrong with me and was scared that maybe there was a reason I feel the way I do … this article sums me up and sums up the type of relationships I crave perfectly … nice to know in some context it makes sense and maybe … I’m not alone.

    • Thank you for reading and commenting.
      You are for sure not alone.
      I too was worried that there must be a reason (a traumatic one) for wanting and being drawn to certain things including the DD/lg dynamic. I have tried to let that worry go and just accept my sexuality. I feel that my sexuality is blossoming now and I wouldn’t change that for the world.
      Hopefully you will discover the same thing.
      Good luck!

    • Little tiger 69 says:

      Same here.

      • Thank you!
        I love sharing info because there seems to be so little good information out there about the Daddy Dom – Little Girl relationship.
        Thanks for commenting!

  6. anonymous says:

    Is it okay for a Daddy Dom to cheat or seek pleasure from someone else other than his Little? Is there a way for the Little herself to make a rule for him not to?

    • I think that if it is termed ‘cheating’ then no, it’s not okay.
      Anything that a Daddy and Little mutually agree on… is up to them.
      If something is done dishonestly… I think that is a problem.
      The Little is not powerless, just submissive and there is a huge difference.
      The most important thing, in my humble opinion, is open and honest communication between the Daddy and the Little. If there isn’t that – there isn’t much.
      Thanks for taking the time to comment.

  7. B says:

    Littles can be male as well

  8. Leigh Taylor says:

    This is absolutely beautiful. I have a Daddy-Dom. I love him soo much. I’ve just been sitting and crying at the thought of one day the inevitable of death, and I’m left without him. I feel it would destroy me. I pray everyday that we may go together. I’m hugging my giant stuffie from Daddy now. My heart hurts. I just want to make him proud. I feel broken and deflated if ever I let him down. ♥

    • Well… it’s always good to concentrate on the here and now.
      Enjoy each other in the moment.
      The future will come, when it does and we have no control over when things happen.
      Worry not or you’ll damper your present.
      Thanks for commenting.

  9. annabianca2014 says:

    Reblogged this on Finding Me and commented:
    A must read

  10. thefemalegamgee says:

    This was super informative! This type of relationship is giving me all of the warm fuzzies and sounds exactly like what I’ve always wanted. Thanks for the great article!!

    • Thanks – I love to hear that people get something from my blog.
      If you are just at the beginning of the DD/lg journey – you have a wonderful journey ahead!
      Thanks for commenting!

  11. Steve says:

    Sorry, not buying it. Littles are dysfunctional adults who don’t want to grow up. They are in an arrested state of development and don’t want to accept responsibility. Like a young teenager. It’s a stage everyone in life goes through but normal people realize they have to grow up and take care of themselves.
    Telling littles they are normal and their behavior is acceptable promotes mental illness and hinders people from fully developing into productive members of society. We have enough leeches around, no need to encourage more.

    • I find it interesting that you equate being vulnerable with being mentally ill.

      I consider myself to be a “Little” – however I am in no way a dysfunctional adult. I have a full time job, I have raised a daughter on my own since she was 6 years of age, I have a house, a car and I support both myself and my daughter financially. How is that being a leech?

      I’m not sure what experiences you are forming your opinions on but to group and label ‘Littles’ as being mentally ill, dysfunctional adults and ‘leeches’ – is obviously short sighted and ignorant to the many different types of people in the lifestyle. You are stereotyping us all.

      I question your aversion to being vulnerable yourself. Perhaps look in the mirror and answer some of those questions for yourself.

      • Daddy's Princess says:

        I am a “Little” who is a perfectly functional adult. I have an MBA, oversee a large healthcare organization, have multiple homes, lots of friends and the most amazing Daddy in the world. Steve, you really haven’t a clue. 🎀

    • You’re quite wrong. I’d consider myself a ‘little’ as well, but I’m also independent, responsible and can fend for myself. I’ve always been considered ‘mature for my age’ since I was very young. Having intelligent conversations with adults and teachers trying to move me up a grade level. Currently I have a job and am attending a high rank university. I plan to go to grad school and obtain a PhD or PsyD and start my own company, which I know I can very well do. I also have always wanted to be a great mother. Yeah, I enjoy being a ‘little’ in my relationship, so what?

    • Shay says:

      Dear Steve,
      I am a 28 year old woman whom has built up and maintained my own business. With my own business I have been able to buy a house and two cars. I pay my own bills and take care of myself quite well. At the end of my long days I come home a cuddle with my cute stuffie and color. I am a little. Always have been. People like you made me feel like something was wrong with me but honestly not one thing is wrong with me. I and all the other baby girls like me are perfectly normal.

  12. Aidan says:

    It feels so good to know that I am not the only one that finds this relationship so emotional and passionate!!!

  13. Angel says:

    Thank you so much for this article! I was lucky enough to have a best friend who realized I was little waaaaay before I did, and he kinda guided me in the direction of getting a Daddy Dom because I was developing terrible habits (sugar and brattiness run rampant…..). I still have a hard time accepting that its a part of me because it isn’t socially acceptable really except in the DDlg community. It makes it really difficult to accept as a part of myself, and sometimes when I come out of ‘little space’ I feel like I’ve done something to be ashamed of because I didn’t behave like someone my age ‘should’. This article is very good for explaining the truth behind all the false pretenses and assumptions of DDlg. You’ve done a favor to the community by writing this, I hope all newly introduced littles and Daddies find this article! Thank you thank you thank you!

  14. Baby girl says:

    I’m so glad I came across this site. I feel a bit more ‘normal’. I’m 30 but haven’t quite given up my teenage years. I got tats, blue hair and like to dress sexy. I stared dating a 48 year old and a month later moved in with him. A few people Aaked when we were out together if he was my dad. It started as the odd joke but slowly made it into our conversing together… ‘Daddy?’ ‘Yes Pumpkin’. At first even joking seemed kinda ‘twisted’ but it eventually became all we called each other. Then the talk continued to our ‘personal life’. I realized how true it all was. I went from working 6 days a week before him, to being the good little house mouse when we started living together. I even got a daddy’s girl shirt made up, I wear when we go out together. It made me wonder I’d we were crazy that that kinda relationship made us so happy. Glad to see there is a world of like minded people out there.

  15. BeautyNeedsADaddy says:

    Please advise as to if there are any websites for littles to meet potential daddys. I live in a small town and find it difficult to meet men who behave as such. Thank you for your time.

  16. Rob says:

    Oh my god for years I thought there was something wrong with me thanks so much

  17. Melanie says:

    I am a 27 yr old married woman. This is something that I have been wanting really bad. Recently I finally opened up to my husband of 9 yrs about it and he seemed interested. But its been about 3 months since our conversation, and in all honesty it seems like we never had the conversation and that now we are growing farther apart. I don’t know if I should bring it up again, or just come to terms that I’ll never get the relationship that I crave from him. I feel hurt and alone now because I shared what I considered my biggest and most desired secret and in turn got ignored. Please does anyone have any advice for me?

  18. Khori says:

    I stumbled upon a book about dominants and subbisives written by a submissive on wattpad and I knew I was a submissive but it also confused me because of the way I crave attention I was afraid that if I found a dom he would quickly discard me because I am childlike to the point where my siblings question how I get such praise for my work and also have an addiction to cartoon network and dressing up in cospllay. I’m so glad I found this and understand that I’m a Littlw Girl not just a submissive. :)

  19. Hope & Jake says:

    hi, I’m hope and I have a bf named jake…I was recently introduced to Daddy Dom/Little girl….thank u for this article so much because although he is a good daddy dom, he also wanted to learn what daddy doms do, and I’ve been so obsessed with this daddy/little scenario that I never knew that there were actual relationships like this and now that I know, I jus wanan send him this link!!! I love my boyfriend so much and don’t wanna change him…he’s like this strong adorable guy and I’m like this tall tomboy girl…I jus don’t know how I could be this little girl, cause when I think about it, becoming a “little” make me feel girly and weird, I dunno why…please help me, if you could…I jus wanna know how we can get this kind of daddy/little relationship….thanks again the blog!!! love hope and jake….:):):):):)

  20. Shiloh says:

    I am a little and I love my daddy more than anything. We are a rl couple and I would be lost without him. He is the most wonderful man and i feel so safe and happy with him. Before I meant him I was lost and depressed he has changed that. So to those bad mouthing it. Learn before you make hurtful comments!

  21. cayleigh says:

    Im new to this I’m trying to find a daddy, my kik is xkaileyx66 I’m very interested in getting into this

  22. bunnyprincess says:

    I very happy that this written. I was a little for the longest time but didn’t understand the things I did and neither did people. I am 20 years old but my age is 5 it was hard thing to deal with. But before I got into bdsm I spent @ years knowing who I am and if this was right for me. I now have a daddy dom who is amazing and I know I am safe and cared for. I know exactly who I am. But for those who judge the lifestyle you really don’t understand what littles have to go through we have a lot of needs and problems. Don’t judge a lifestyle you don’t understand.

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